It’s been a while
since I posted on here, but that’s never a good sentence to start a post with,
so let’s try again.
A small crisis is
when you’re late and you can’t find your keys, and a big crisis is when you get
in a car crash. I have been in many small crises – leaving my curler on,
arriving an hour late, confusing email recipients, accidentally machine washing
a hand wash item, and realizing I forgot to text my Grandma back two months
later. These ‘emergencies’ happen daily, and I’m countlessly finding ways to
counter them. I sometimes talk about them, but there should be one spot for bad
things that happen, and a large spot for the good things that happen, and they
should never be confused or unfairly weighted.
Separately, the
serious crises are rare and unexpected and momentous. They hit us, sometimes
only second hand, but still felt. They’ll shock you out of whatever you thought
was reality and give you an instant alternative. You have to be more careful to
keep the bright light alive in your mind, as people offer advice and meals and
flowers. These ‘big’ events become teachers and they become part of your story,
outlasting the trivial and toppled yogurt containers.
I think it’s good
not to confuse the two. A bad situation is there – an entity, an individual. We
don’t expect it but it happens, and it’s instantly recognizable as a life
altering event, depending on our next play. They stand out for all the pain,
shock, and life experience they bring. They are bad, and bad things happen.
Sometimes people
can make small things, big things. An empty tank of gas following spilt tea on
new jeans isn't stressful - it's not enjoyable, but if we give our all to these
pressed Tuesday mornings, then what do we have left for bad family news?
Because this isn’t
really a big deal, it’s small. It doesn’t need teary eyes, a racing heart, or a
hurried phone call. The more perspective I have gained, the less anything can
make me lose it. When I see the big things in the world, and all the surrounding
goodbyes, tears, and emptiness, it makes me want to save my most tender and
healing response for that scenery.
Strong people are
composed, patient, and carry around enough enthusiasm to dilute any amount of
spilt coffee. You are strong, and you are strong.
mads xx
wow, I love this. What a good perspective to have - to save our energies for the big things.
ReplyDeleteThank you lovely x
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